By Christina Hedges, Editor in Chief of Carrie Ann’s Bridal Magazine
So I’ve attended weddings of my cousins, my family friends, my friends but last weekend was the first time I had ever attended a wedding as a “plus one.” This experience was drastically different than the other wedding experiences I had. Last weekend I attended the wedding as my boyfriend’s plus one. One of college hockey friends was getting married and his whole hockey group was going. This group of guys and their girlfriends had hung out countless times before, and here I am, the newcomer! And to top it off, my first time meeting everyone was at the wedding! Here are some tips I learned to make the most of being a “plus one.”
Before the wedding, have your date fill you in on what you need to know. If you haven’t met the couple, try to have you date introduce you before the big day if possible. If not, have your date fill you in on their love story and a little background on each member of the couple. This way when you meet them you’ll know a little bit about them and it will be easier to start a conversation. Also, have him tell you who might be at the wedding that you’ll have to meet. If its a member of his family getting married, have him show you his family tree. If its friends, try to meet some of them before then so you’ll know some people as well.
Buy a Gift
While your date should be getting the couple a gift and might even sign it on your behalf, I suggest getting them your own gift. This shows the couple that you are thankful to be at their wedding and shows your congratulations. Also, the couple is paying for you to be able to be a guest and for your dinner. So think of it this way, your gift is paying for your dinner.
Don’t be Shy, Be Confident
While it can be very overwhelming to meet your date’s friends or family, try your best not to be shy. I know for some, this is easier said than done. I was definitely shy towards the beginning of the night but as the night went on I came out of my shell and I could tell his friends really appreciated getting to know the real me. Be confident and remember your date brought you there to show you off to his friends or family!
And most importantly remember to have fun! That’s what your date wants. That’s what the bride and groom want. So have fun and dance the night away!
With these tips in mind you’ll be much more prepared to be a “plus one” at a wedding.
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